Someone said to me, "Hamaray Mushray mein aurat ka aik muqam hai, woh maa hai, woh behan hai aur woh beti hai"....un say "Insaan" bhool gaya.
Aurat kiya Insaan bhi hai bazat e khud, ya uss ki pehchan sirf auroun say hai?
Aurat majboor hai hamaray mushray mein, in rishtoun ki ghulami ki zanjeeroun ki wajah say.
Behan bhai ki ghulam, Biwi shauhar ki ghulam, beti baap ki ghulam...jis ka jo dil chahyae waisay uss par hukam chalayae in rishtoun kay naam par. Ye muqadas rishtay hain jin ko mard, aurat ko majboor karnay kay liyae istemal karta hai, izzat aur ghairat kay naam par.
Aurat ka aik "muqam" hai...ghar kay decoration piece wala. Brainless, brain dead, jahan mard nay chaha uss muqam par rakh diya... Kabhi sar ka taj, aur kabhi paoun ki jooti. Aksar paoun ki jooti jo apni zindagi ka koi faisla khud nahin kar sakti kiyoun kay woh bazat e khud aik Insan nahin hai, aik rishta hai ( maa, behan, biwi, beti) jis ki zindagi ka har faisla uss kay mohtram rishtadar uss kay liyae kartay hain, kabhi bhai ya baap ki soorat mein ya phir shohar ki soorat mein. Jaisay aik mard insan hai waisay hee aurat bhi aik insan hai, jo aik damgh bhi rakhti hai, aur ehsasat bhi. Hamaray mushray kay rasm o rasoom ki wajah say woh apni zaat ko dafna kar aik mard ki ghulami qabool karti hai, kiyoun kay uss ka wajood sirf ye rishtay hain...she is nothing more then these relationships. ..she is not a person. We talk about aurat ka "muqam" what about her God given "haqooq?"How many women get their God given right to inheritance in our society which wants to put a woman in a "Place" a "muqam?"Give her breathing "space" a space to grow, not restrict her horizons by locking her up in the house, treating her like an invalid brainless moron, in the name of giving her a mohtaram muqam which is very rarely the case in our society any way. Aurat is a gali (curse word) in our culture. When men want to put someone down they call another man a "Woman/lady/ Aurat" or say, "sa khazay pa shan tay karouna kaway?" They even say, "stop being a sissy." All curse words have something to do with a woman. Maa, began ki galiyan dena hamara dastur hai.
That sums it all up pretty nicely..."Aurat ka Muqam"